I've been thinking about "rights of passage" a lot during the last few days. There are a lot of things in life that are "supposed" to happen at a certain age, according to what the world/media/TV tells us. But most of us are "off", aren't we? Where's the high fives for the late bloomers? The pats on the back for the people who are just too speedy?
Here are some things I'm glad I did "wrong":
Things I'm Happy that I Waited "Too Long" to Do:
1. Hair color. I tried out a few wash-out things in college, but nothing permanent till after I had kids. Coloring my hair is fun and I love it, but I'm glad I waited... it was nice to have that extra "something" in my twenties.
2. Eye brow waxing. Same as above, but I waited until my thirties. I'm glad I have that little something that I could feel improved my looks a little as aging becomes a very real thing to me :) I know some people have to do it earlier (my daughter who is 12 is one of them), but if you don't? Don't rush it!
3. I saved intimacy for marriage. I won't go to far into this one for the sake of my daughter, who sometimes reads my blog, but I look at some of the stuff that goes on in the world and it's a hot mess. I'm not jealous of most people I observe. With the addition of social media... I don't know how people don't curl up and die of embarrassment!
4. Be ME. This one is hard to define, but I don't think I "came into my own" until my mid twenties. I wouldn't change that. Sometimes, we feel like we have to push our kids to find "their thing" early... so they can be the best at it :) When I was a kid, sports weren't my thing, neither were academics. I enjoyed all my choir stuff, but I wasn't interested in the weirdness that was the theater scene (which I'm actually more interested in now). I didn't really have much that was mine. But I've grown into someone who-- well, I feel like I'm plenty smart, active and well rounded. I constantly have to keep this in mind with my kids. I don't care if they don't get the best grades, don't excel at a sport, or don't shine on stage. They'll find their thing when they need too. No need to be pushy.
Things I'm Happy I Did "Too Early":
1. Got Married. I was 20 when I got married. Best decision of my life. I prayed about it, it was right and it STILL IS RIGHT.
2. Have kids. My first was born when I was 22. I was still in college (and PS, I still graduated college!). I wouldn't change it for the world. I'm glad that I have 5 kids, am 34, and I'm done. I feel like I still have energy to take on the world. It's great!
Things I'm Glad I Never Did:
1. Drugs. Do I even need to explain this one?
2. Alcohol. I have never had one ounce of interest in drinking. I don't get it. And while I understand addiction completely (I have an addictive personality), I think my life has been easier because I don't drink. Simple as that. Easier = better for me.
3. Make the first move. lol! I don't know how girls these days navigate dating with texting, facebook... what happened to my "I don't call boys first" rule? It's going to be so different for my girls!
Things I Wish I Would Have Done Earlier:
1. Be friendly. I spent way too many years being afraid of people and hiding it under a thick shell. I am really naturally very shy and it has been hard to overcome that.
2. Learn to Apologize: I'm still working on that one. I really admire people who say they are sorry immediately after doing something stupid. We ALL make mistakes, why is it so hard to apologize? I'm trying to be better with this one.
Now, I want to be clear that I am not judging anyone who has done ANYTHING differently than I have. I just want to make the point that we don't all do things the same. We don't need to.
I'm sure I'll add to this list mentally later, this was just off the top of my head. But it's given me a lot to think about... what do you think?