3.06.2012

Rights of Passage

I've been thinking about "rights of passage" a lot during the last few days. There are a lot of things in life that are "supposed" to happen at a certain age, according to what the world/media/TV tells us. But most of us are "off", aren't we? Where's the high fives for the late bloomers? The pats on the back for the people who are just too speedy?


Here are some things I'm glad I did "wrong":

Things I'm Happy that I Waited "Too Long" to Do:

1. Hair color. I tried out a few wash-out things in college, but nothing permanent till after I had kids. Coloring my hair is fun and I love it, but I'm glad I waited... it was nice to have that extra "something" in my twenties.

2. Eye brow waxing. Same as above, but I waited until my thirties. I'm glad I have that little something that I could feel improved my looks a little as aging becomes a very real thing to me :) I know some people have to do it earlier (my daughter who is 12 is one of them), but if you don't? Don't rush it!

3. I saved intimacy for marriage. I won't go to far into this one for the sake of my daughter, who sometimes reads my blog, but I look at some of the stuff that goes on in the world and it's a hot mess. I'm not jealous of most people I observe. With the addition of social media... I don't know how people don't curl up and die of embarrassment!

4. Be ME. This one is hard to define, but I don't think I "came into my own" until my mid twenties. I wouldn't change that. Sometimes, we feel like we have to push our kids to find "their thing" early... so they can be the best at it :) When I was a kid, sports weren't my thing, neither were academics. I enjoyed all my choir stuff, but I wasn't interested in the weirdness that was the theater scene (which I'm actually more interested in now). I didn't really have much that was mine. But I've grown into someone who-- well, I feel like I'm plenty smart, active and well rounded. I constantly have to keep this in mind with my kids. I don't care if they don't get the best grades, don't excel at a sport, or don't shine on stage. They'll find their thing when they need too. No need to be pushy.

Things I'm Happy I Did "Too Early":

1. Got Married. I was 20 when I got married. Best decision of my life. I prayed about it, it was right and it STILL IS RIGHT.

2. Have kids. My first was born when I was 22. I was still in college (and PS, I still graduated college!). I wouldn't change it for the world. I'm glad that I have 5 kids, am 34, and I'm done. I feel like I still have energy to take on the world. It's great!

Things I'm Glad I Never Did:

1. Drugs. Do I even need to explain this one?

2. Alcohol. I have never had one ounce of interest in drinking. I don't get it. And while I understand addiction completely (I have an addictive personality), I think my life has been easier because I don't drink. Simple as that. Easier = better for me.

3. Make the first move. lol! I don't know how girls these days navigate dating with texting, facebook... what happened to my "I don't call boys first" rule? It's going to be so different for my girls!

Things I Wish I Would Have Done Earlier:

1. Be friendly. I spent way too many years being afraid of people and hiding it under a thick shell. I am really naturally very shy and it has been hard to overcome that.

2. Learn to Apologize: I'm still working on that one. I really admire people who say they are sorry immediately after doing something stupid. We ALL make mistakes, why is it so hard to apologize? I'm trying to be better with this one.


Now, I want to be clear that I am not judging anyone who has done ANYTHING differently than I have. I just want to make the point that we don't all do things the same. We don't need to.

I'm sure I'll add to this list mentally later, this was just off the top of my head. But it's given me a lot to think about... what do you think?

11 comments:

Christa aka The BabbyMama said...

Love your list! I want to make something similar soon. What an inspiring idea :)

AmareeBlanchard said...

You're done? Noooo. I think you need to have at least one more... (Amaree Star)

Courtney Price said...

Thanks Christa!

Am! I was SO close! Then I just kept having boys!!! I guess it's your turn to take the torch on baby-making :)

Kim said...

I think I took too long to be me too, I spent way too long trying not to be a weirdy... I'm glad I learned to just embrace that. You may have inspired a post from me as well ;)

If I were to do a list, I think I would add a "Things that I wish I would have figured out by my age." Mine would include knowing how to do my own hair and keeping my room clean. I always figured that grown-ups just had those down... but here I am.

Kim said...

I think I took too long to be me too, I spent way too long trying not to be a weirdy... I'm glad I learned to just embrace that. You may have inspired a post from me as well ;)

If I were to do a list, I think I would add a "Things that I wish I would have figured out by my age." Mine would include knowing how to do my own hair and keeping my room clean. I always figured that grown-ups just had those down... but here I am.

Courtney Price said...

I just recently figured out how to do my hair... thirties? Till then, it was just blah! Now, I even know how to curl it so that it will stay for more than 10 minutes! I feel fancy.

Kaija said...

I love this list, too. And it may just inspire me to write another blog post! It's kind of crazy to think that you are 34 and done having kids and I am soon to be 34 and hope and pray that the miracle our first child will arrive (somehow, someway) in our 34th year! We each take different paths, don't we? How wonderful to be able to celebrate each one!

Courtney Price said...

Kaija, I TOTALLY agree! We each have our own paths... some choices we make, some are made for us! But there is certainly joy in each path!

April said...

I loved reading this too! The funny thing is that this could have been my list, I think we are similar in many ways...or maybe I just want to be cool like you!!! The only difference is I can't sing and I used to highlight my hair all the time in High School but after I got married (when I was 19) my husband liked my hair better natural so that's the way I will stay until I start going gray!
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Claudia said...

I have an awesome daughter!

Courtney Price said...

Ooo! How could I not post THAT? :)